“someone touched my thighs on the train ride back home”
“well, what were you wearing?”
“a t-shirt, jacket, and pants”
“how thin was your t-shirt? why don’t you zipper up your jacket? how tight was your pants?”
those are the kind of questions people get first whenever they experienced an unwanted sexual encounter.
as girls, we were taught not to expose ourselves. we were taught not to create attention. we were taught to lower down our voices, because it is not polite for girls to be loud. and they always said that girls should be protected at all times. for they are our mothers and future mothers of our children.
but what about the girls who never feel that they had protection?
the girl whose father left them in the early age,
the girl whose father barely talk to them to find out how she’s doing,
the girl who’s been used for men’s sexual satisfaction,
the girl whose husband abandon them for another woman,
the girl who never felt worthy, because instead of feeling protected, they know that they will get hurt again,
and the girl who blamed herself, for all the wrong being done to her.
if you are those girls,
it is never your fault.
stop apologizing to people in order for them to love you,
to come back to you,
and for them to see your worth.
you are worthy,
much more worthy than what you told yourself,
you survived,
you’ve taken life’s challenges,
and you survived with grace, beautifully,
you are worthy for that.
stop apologizing to them,
for being who you are,
for flexing your muscles and showing your true strength,
for your anger, your sadness, and your disappointment when you have the right to feel those emotions,
for loving too much,
for being too much,
just stop.
you are intelligent,
funny,
beautiful,
and very very worthy.
please don’t see yourself as the girl who cannot do things for herself,
who cannot fight for herself,
who cannot stand on her own feet,
you will do great things by your own mind & heart.
the only person you should be apologizing to
is you.
and don’t forget to forgive yourself, too :)
